Tuesday
10-20-2026
By: Brenda
“Putting Ourselves in Check”
Why do some people thrive on drama? Drama only temporarily distracts us from unresolved internal pain, and causes so much more.
Scripture uncovers something far deeper about drama. Drama is rarely harmless venting or casual gossip.
We often picture wickedness in extremes acts of malice that seem entirely detached from our quiet, everyday lives. But the most destruction frequently unfolds across kitchen tables, in private text messages, and within ordinary families.
Pride, manipulation, whispered half-truths, and the quiet urge to sow discord can tear families, friends and communities apart from the inside out, often while dressed in the disguise of “just being honest” or “seeking justice.”
In the book of Proverbs we read seven things God detest. Proverbs 6:16-19
* 1- Haughty eyes: A posture of superiority, and unchecked pride.
* 2- A lying tongue: Distorting truth, or deceiving to protect image or gain leverage.
* 3- Hands that shed innocent blood: Harming vulnerable individuals or causing collateral damage without remorse.
* 4- A heart that devises wicked plans: Scheming behind closed doors, anticipating conflict, and calculating selfish outcomes.
* 5- Feet that make haste to run to evil: An eager rush toward gossip, retaliation, or controversy instead of peace.
* 6- A false witness who breathes out lies: Misrepresenting others’ motives and tearing down reputations through slander.
* 7- One who sows discord among brothers: Deliberately stirring up trouble, picking at wounds, and pitting people against one another.
Notice how many of these seven sins center on ordinary, relational patterns: our eyes, our tongues, our hearts, and how we treat those walking alongside us.
It is easy to read through these verses and immediately construct a mental list of all the dramatic, the difficult, or the manipulative people in our lives. It is second nature to mentally assign each trait to a co-worker, a friend, a difficult relative, or an online voice. Maybe it is time to put ourselves in check.
Jesus directly confronted this human tendency when He asked why we obsess over the speck in our brother’s eye while ignoring the log in our own.
We need to stop and ask ourselves honestly:
* My Words- When I repeat information about someone else, is my aim restoration and care, or am I secretly feeding on the drama?
* My Reaction- Am I eager to believe the worst about others, quickly jumping to share bad news or amplify conflict?
* My Heart- Do I carry a quiet sense of superiority, am I looking down on those struggling with visible sins while excusing my own?
* My Obedience- Am I actively working as an agent of reconciliation and peace, or does my presence fan the flames of division?
God does not call us to be self-appointed jurors of everyone else’s conduct.
God calls us to obedience, humility, and careful stewardship of our own thoughts, our own words, and our own deeds.
Transformation begins when we step in front of the mirror of God’s Word with open hands. And we surrender the petty adrenaline of conflict, our pride, and the habit of pointing fingers. When we make room for grace to heal what drama broke. And when we realize that a clean heart and a quiet spirit are far more precious than winning an argument or owning the narrative.
It is a good thing to put ourselves in check.
Oh, how God loves us ❤️
DearFather in heaven,
Forgive us for the times we have been fascinated by conflict, quick to speak, and slow to listen.
May we confess that we are often eager to diagnose the faults of those around us while remaining blind to the pride, bitterness, and dishonesty in our own hearts.
Search us today, Father, and know our hearts. Test our thoughts and point out anything in us that grieves You.
Guard our mouths from speaking reckless or hateful words, and tame our minds when we are tempted to scheme, judge, or stir up strife.
Replace our pride with genuine humility, and our critical spirit with active grace.
Help us not to thrive on worldly friction, but to walk as peacemakers who bring light, reconciliation, and truth into every room we enter.
In Your Son’s precious name,
Amen.
Have a blessed day
God loves you ❤️
and so do I ❤️